When I was feeling discouraged recently, a friend asked me, "What would Lori 2.0 do?"
In other words, if there were a "perfect me" -- what would she be like? I don't just mean what would she look like, (because, of course, she would be GORGEOUS!)
No... I mean what would she BE like? What qualities would she have as a person?
That really got me thinking... The "me" I want to be is authentic, sincere, kind, compassionate, motivated, disciplined, resilient, encouraging, versatile and... full of self-love.
Self-love! That elusive creature... Self-love can be the one quality that is hardest to come by.
I want to love myself, and I know that loving ourselves is vital to so many areas of our lives.
Yet, there are days when I find it very hard to love myself.
The subconscious mind is so strong and really rules the roost from its quiet perch, just under the hood of my awareness.
Somewhere along the line (probably as a small child) I got the idea that my value as a human being is connected to my size. Ridiculous, I know. But I see that in a lot of us.
Yes, for many of us, to be thin means we are somehow more valuable as human beings.
But that is not true!
Our bodies are the vehicles that allow us to exist on this planet, and it sure would be nice to have a fit, energetic and attractive vehicle in which to run around!
But they do not inherently make us more valuable.
What does make us more valuable, then?
Love. Kindness. Compassion. Caring. Sharing. Generosity.
I will endeavor to embody those qualities, every day.
As for my body, I will take things one day at a time, one hour at a time, one decision at a time. If I can make forward progress in even just one thing today, I am moving in the right direction.
And those tiny increments of forward progress all add up.